I am already 33 years old and have been waiting for my boyfriend of 10 years to marry me. The thing is....... I am STILL WAITING.

So based on the Define => Analyze =>Identify => Decide model

Define the problem

The gap is obvious - "I have been waiting....I am still waiting". So yeah I HAVE A PROBLEM!

So in this case, the problem is I am still not married when I obviously want to (Biological clock is ticking!)

Analyze the problem

• Firstly, I deem this a big problem now as compared to 3 to 5 years ago.
• Reason - Age is catching up. Motherly instinct is creeping in. I want to have kids soonest possible as the older I get, chances of having babies with health issues like down-syndrome is high. Also, level of being infertile will shoot up as I reach mid to late 30s.
• Problem started when both my partner and myself agreed that we monetary burden could cause a happy marriage to tumble down. So we made a point to earn as much as we could first before plunging into the realm of marriage. Besides that, he also wanted to make his financial mark before popping the question to my father who has been very critical towards my partner.
• The longer I wait, the more stress I get. Why? I worry about the baby part. I get irritated by people (friends, relatives, business associates and colleagues) asking me the "Marriage question" again and again. I also wonder whether the love and passion has wane into complacency and friendship-like feel for each other.

Identify possible solutions

1. Broach the subject to him and discuss with him thoroughly on the matter.
2. Get assistance from a marriage counseller who has professional knowledge on the subject matter.
3. Break off and start afresh

Decide on the appropriate alternatives

1. Broach the subject to him and discuss with him thoroughly on the matter.

Advantages:
He understands how I feel especially on how it might affect our future to start a family of our own.

Disadvantages:
He might just say he knows about it and he just needs some more time.

    2.   Get assistance from a marriage counseller who has professional knowledge on the subject matter.

Advantages:
The marriage counsellor could advise us accordingly from an independent and impartial perspective.

Disadvantages:My partner might not want to attend as to avoid another person knowing about our relationship problems.
 

 
 

    3.   Break off and start afresh.

Advantanges:
Going separate ways could let us "explore and discover" what we have missed outside of the world. Perhaps, any unpleasant experience that we go through with others might make us appreciate each other more and if it is meant to be, it's meant to be then.

Disadvatanges:
It's not easy to break up with someone whom you have dated for 10 years! So much of memories and experiences shared together. Also on my part, being 33 years old now is quite a bane as if I desire an older guy, most likely he is already married. Also, what makes anyone think that greener pastures are better...it might be refreshing for a short while but not for long. Besides that, meeting someone new simply means that you got to go through lots of ups and downs again by getting to know the person more closely from time to time. On top of that, will I regret it if I don't get a new suitable partner for myself whereas my current partner manage to find his soulmate? Nobly, I should congratulate and be happy for him. But selfishly, I think it would be the biggest regret of my life.


So conclusion is....


I would decide to go along with Option 1. It is preferably to straighten out this pain with him.

Let's look at the picture below.

The wave in the sea has made Allen and Michael to feel nauseous.

 Things I need to check before making a causal claim

Causal claim (unstated) : The wave in the sea caused Allen and Michael to feel nauseous.
Cause : The wave in the sea.
Effect : Allen and Michael felt nauseous.

Cause and effect each happened? Yes

Cause precede effect? Yes
However, we need to find out whether Allen and Michael always feel nauseous every time when they are in the sea.

Cause makes a difference? It could be.  However, perhaps Allen and Michael were already feeling sick before encountering the wave?

Common cause? No. There may be other factors that could make them feel that way. 

Common cause? Need to investigate more before we can conclude on anything.

I was running out of topic for the day with no clue of what to write as I have not studied some of the subject chapters yet, so I decided to cover the most BASIC knowledge of all, that is the components that are available in an argument.

Kim Kardashian

(Introduction) Lately, there's been so much of abuzz going about Kim Kardashian, an American of Albanian ethinicity who is a socialite, television personality, model, actress and businesswoman. (Statement) She has been caught in countless of controversies and the most talked around town news till now would be her infamous marriage that lasted for 72 days only and her eventual divorce from Kris Humphries who now seeking legal proceedings to annul the marriage by declaring it was fraud from the very begining.

Critics and the mass media can't seem to get over the whole drama. (Premise) No doubt that her life has been under the spectrum of tv camera seasons after seasons, people should just understand that she is a human being afterall and her privacy which she doesn't have much control over it should be respected as much as possible. (Premise) For those who call her a slut or bxxxx should be reminded that she didn't sleep around carefreely with any other man except for those whom she had feelings with or loved. Did she steal away your boyfriend or rendevouz with your husband? Ask yourself that question!

(Premise) Also, she is currently doing modelling and commercial shoots which is a respected career - not something that any Tom, Dick and Harry could knock on the door and apply for. You need the relevant looks and assets which she clearly has it all. (Premise) On top of that, she is also involved in the successful DASH clothing boutique, partnering her other 2 sisters in running the business where the boutique's presence has been expanded from Los Angelas to Miami and the Big Apple.

(Conclusion) So could you people just leave her alone please!